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DUTCH DIPLOMAT tries to return adopted child

By Jackie Burrell
Tuesday, December 11th, 2007 at 3:02 pm in Just Bizarre.


At a time of increasing political controversy over foreign adoptions – Guatemala’s foreign adoptions cease Jan. 1; Vietnamese adoptions are stalled, stranding families in Hanoi halfway through the process; and political tensions simmer in Russia and elsewhere – comes this: A Dutch diplomat and his wife are trying to return the daughter they adopted seven years ago. The little girl just doesn’t “fit in” with their lifestyle, they said – although their two biological children, conceived after the adoption, fit in just fine (or maybe they lost the receipt).

According to today’s Daily Mail, the girl was adopted from South Korea when she was just four months old, and the family has lived in Hong Kong since she was three. But, the family told a reporter, the girl was “struggling to adapt to their culture, including food.” Last year, they tried to give her back, only to discover that South Korean authorities see adoption as an unbreakable commitment – you know, like a parent-child bond or something. 

So, they quietly turned her over to Hong Kong social workers. She’s been in foster care ever since and Hong Kong’s Korean community, which is trying to find her a home, is up in arms. Complicating matters in the search for a new family: the child speaks English and Cantonese, but not Korean. (And Dutch? What about Dutch?) And she is neither a Dutch citizen nor a Hong Kong resident.We’ll echo our pals over at StrollerDerby when we say, “Excuuuuuuse me?” What did they do, stick their kid in the diplomatic pouch when they moved to Hong Kong? How does a child live with a family for seven years and not “adapt” to their food? And since when are kids returnable? While we sit here and fume, how about you weigh in with your thoughts – what could possibly have happened here?

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5 Responses to “DUTCH DIPLOMAT tries to return adopted child”

  1. Peter Steinhauer Says:

    This is disgusting. I am a parent of three. How could someone have this inside of them to try and give back an adopted child. They are below pathetic. Evil. I fell they should be put in prison. the mental scars that will be left with this child will never go away and starting fairly soon will start to affect her deeply. This ridiculous irresponsible couple should pay for this somehow. Sickening!

  2. Michelle Says:

    This behavior is absolutely ridiculous. Adopting a child is not like adopting a pet. There is no “Hm, this kid doesn’t work out for us, let’s return him/her”. I believe what Korean officials deem as an unbreakable parent-child vow is completely true. For seven years, you have accepted this girl as your daughter. You do not simply cast her aside if she doesn’t fit in. And if she was adopted at four months of age, she IS their child. There is something seriously wrong with these parents because they are the sole individuals who have brought up this child. Psychotherapy needs to be granted to this sick couple that deem themselves parents. I do not have children of my own nor am I old enough to have them, this is utterly sickening. Is this the level that humanity has decided to stoop to? Absolutely appalling.

  3. Ann Says:

    People like this should never be allowed to have ANY children…by any means. It is a SIN what they have done to this child. They should never be forgiven for this.

  4. Stephanie Says:

    Oh, let’s see…hmmmm. I’m adopted and during adolescence (I was 15) my adoptive mother, who was pretty done with a rebellious teenager asked me if I’d rather be in a foster family. She was dead serious and her hand was on the phone.

    People have no idea what it is like to be adopted and not fit in. Yes, what this couple did was reprehensible, just about as bad as being abandoned, not just by the natural mother, but her entire family (aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc) as an infant.

    There are more adoptive parents that abuse their kids for not fitting in. Sometimes physical, often mental.

    People can talk about how beautiful adoption is all they want, but the ugly truth is you have a ton of lost people out there. And those poor kids taken from one culture and forced to grow up in a family that does not mirror their eyes, hair, skin color, is the absolute worst. Adoptees will be fine for awhile, even love their adoptive parents, but one day it will all come out. It will come out, not my lashing out, but by rebelliousness, drug and alcohol abuse, low self esteem and countless other acting out measures.

  5. devilsadvocate Says:

    Honestly, I’d like to see this happen more. It’s the only way adoption laws will be changed. Right now, adoption is a legalized form of human trafficking. Most people don’t understand how much abuse and abandonment is part of the system. They need to see how inhumanely adoptees are treated.

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