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BIG Q: Teen Stress

By Jackie Burrell
Sunday, March 30th, 2008 at 8:13 pm in Advice.

?! by Dhiegaum/StockXchng It’s your turn to play advice columnist! And here’s this week’s question, inspired by Sunday’s “Childhood Matters” radio show on stress, tweens and teens.

“I think my 13-year-old daughter may be stressed. She seems to have stomach aches all the time, trouble sleeping, she’s moody – yes, I know all teens are, but this seems beyond that. But when I ask if something’s wrong, she shuts me out. What would you do?”

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  1. BIG Q: Teen Stress : Anxiety-Stress Says:

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  2. Rona Renner Says:

    Sometimes a first step is to let a teen know that you can see that something is wrong, and tell her you want to have a heart to heart with her. Ask her to tell you what she needs and then you can tell her what you see and what your concerns are. Don’t try and fix it right away, just listen. You can ask her if she has any suggestions. If she still shuts you out and the symptoms continue, take her to her pediatrician and get her checked out physically. The Dr. may also be able to talk with her about the kinds of stress she may be under, or other issues. The next step might be to seek counseling, or talk with her teachers to see how she is doing at school. Stress often does show up in physical symptoms. Also reflect on how much down time she has, if her school work is too hard, or if she is having problems with friends.
    Spend some time together, and you might get more information on a shopping trip than asking questions.
    It’s a real challenge to understand the lives of our teens.

  3. Rajni Says:

    Your daughter is displaying signs of stress. Surely she is disturbed over something. In this age teenagers are vary sensitive over their looks. Is she overweight, or underweight? Maybe somebody in her group is passing snide remarks over her and hurting her self esteem.
    You may try to contact some friend of hers who you also know. call her to ask something else, and only in passing tell her that her friend seems to be somewhat perturbed, is anything the matter? Nothing serious, though, huh?…and so on..
    Also, do tell your daughter that you can see that she is disturbed and you would very much like to help her, and you love her a lot…and leave at that. After some gaps keep on broaching the subject, but very lovingly, without showing any irritation.
    Is there a cousin in the family, with whom she is very close? if so, invite the family over for lunch or tea, etc. Encourage her cousin to spend a few hours with her. This may break the ice.
    Lastly, if it is possible, go to her school and meet her teacher. Try to know if there is any problem with her friends or maybe in studies. Also, if required, you may try to meet the school counselor. She may be able to tell you something.
    Lastly, keep on showing your love for her.
    Hope this helps!

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