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SLEEPOVERS: When do you say ‘yes’?

By asoglin
Monday, June 16th, 2008 at 4:47 pm in Kids & Tweens, Parenting Issues, Teens.

The story about the Danville teens who were sleeping in the street has me thinking about how often kids sleep over at each other’s houses these days.

When I was a kid, I probably slept over at a friend’s house a handful of times. If that. These days, kids seem to do sleepovers several times a month.

Or maybe it’s just my kids and they’re trying to escape. They’ve had the gall to challenge me when I’ve refused to let them sleep over when I didn’t know the parents. How unreasonable of me!

Why are sleepovers so popular now? What rules do you have about whose house, how often, what time they must come home?

And how do you feel about hosting sleepovers?

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No Responses to “SLEEPOVERS: When do you say ‘yes’?”

  1. Marni Says:

    I never let my kids stay at anyone’s house I did not know. I was amazed on how many parents let their kids stay at my house without even asking to talk with me, which then told me not to ever let my kids stay with them. What is it with parent’s now, dont they care where their kids are or who they are with. My kids get so angry with me at times, but when they turn 18 hopefully they will thank me for getting them there.

  2. d Says:

    I don’t think sleepovers are any more popular than when I was a kid.

    I am 33 and loved sleepovers as a kid. During the summer it was at least once a week, and during the school year it was once a month — sometimes more if birthdays were involved. And you’ll love this; sometimes my mom didn’t know the parents either. And yes, she did love me. :)

    My first was age 6 at Crystal’s house. There were 10 of us. Ten kids was about the norm through high school. Movies were usually involved, popcorn and girly gossip. And an occasional prank. :)

  3. Rachelle Goldenberg Says:

    I also spent the majority of my teen years at sleepovers. It was usually 4-6 girls, and we had sleepovers “slumber parties” at least once a month….sometimes even on school nights!

    I grew up in a small town in Oregon, so things were simpler, and my mom didn’t know all of the other parents, but we were “good” kids whose idea of “wild” was to sneak out and go to the park at 2am to swing and slide down the slides…. (no alcohol, no drugs…..usually boys though)

  4. Ari Says:

    I wonder, D and Rachelle, whether sleepovers used to be mainly a girl thing back in the day. Now, it seems boys are doing sleepovers as often as girls.

    Way to stay tough, Marni! I think cell phones have made some parents more lenient than they should be. That phone can be both a blessing and a curse, because it can lull us into a false sense of security: We maintain contact but we don’t really know where they are.

  5. d Says:

    Hi Ari-

    Well, maybe I was in some alternate universe, but yep, the boys had just as many slumber parties back in the day. I even recall a few co-ed sleepovers (before puberty kicked in). :) I miss those days. There was something so insanely goofy about watching Flashdance or The Last Unicorn, snarfing pizza and playing MASH. I guess being an adult is sort of boring.

  6. Ari Says:

    D, maybe I was a social reject and never invited to sleepovers as a kid. My only clear memory of a sleepover at a friend’s house is a nightmarish image of being wakened from my slumber by a cat leaping on the bed and scaring the —- out of me. So, I’m starting to think it was just me and that I had sleepover issues. :) The rest of you, please carry on with your fond memories.

  7. Chris Says:

    Well I usually like to invite my cousin and we like play video games and go on the computer all day or look at cards and more we play Nintendo gamecube like Mario party 7 or Luigis mansion super paper mario thousand year door or super smash bros melee lots of fun

  8. andy Says:

    My 13 year old daughter has many close female friends. She rotates sleepovers at my home as well as her friend’s homes. They all appear to be healthy, honest, good kids. My question is how often is considered healthy? My daughter has a sleepover or sleeps over once a week. Is there a cause for concern?

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