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WAITING FOR BABY: If at first you don’t succeed

By Ann Tatko-Peterson
Wednesday, August 27th, 2008 at 6:05 am in Adoption.

Crib ILLUS.jpg(“Waiting for Baby” is a closer look at adoption and my family’s personal experience as we go through the process. It will appear every Wednesday in the aPARENTly Speaking blog.)

Networking always sounded like something working folks did to advance their careers. I never imagined it would be a method applied to growing my family. But when it comes to making contact with a birth mother, networking is crucial. So, we took our birth mother letter — essentially a two-sided color flier that tells about my husband, stepdaughter and I — to the printer to have it mass produced. We gave 100 copies to our adoption agency. The other 150 we began distributing to friends and family. “Any and everyone,” our caseworker suggested.

Then, a few weeks ago, my sister saw an elusive opening, really just a sliver of possibility. Babysitting for a former co-worker, she learned about how the woman had adopted the two girls when her niece lost custody of them. “And now she’s pregnant again,” the woman explained. My sister eventually learned that the woman’s niece is unsure what will become of her unborn baby. Before the woman left, she had a copy of our birth mother letter in hand. The situation doesn’t appear headed in our direction, but then, we understood that this was a long shot. The point is that when it comes to adoption, networking comes in many forms and every single one should be explored. Because you just never know where it might lead.

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