I, like maybe many other Bay Area parents, have been following this terrible story about a Tracy boy who was held captive and abused for at least a year, with three adults being held responsible, police say, and neighbors who wondered about him but didn’t intervene.
I am sleepless from laying awake at night trying to make sense of how something like this could happen. And why it seems to happen again and again. I touch my daughter, 7, and son, 4, while they are sleeping, thankful that they are safe. For the moment.
But I have been pushed to the limits of sanity by those two angel faces. Quite routinely in fact. But I would never hurt them. Right???
As the editor responsible for the coverage of this case, I am reaching out to fellow parents and our readers. Please, share your thoughts here. It’s so important that parents openly discuss how they cope when their children push them to the edge. Maybe your comments will help a parent seek help, or maybe you will convince a neighbor who suspects a child is being hurt to call the police.
So try to answer this:
What separates YOU from a parent or caregiver who does the unthinkable? What do you personally do to cope with a difficult child? Share a story of a specific situation where you avoided a disaster and found a way to save your sanity.
If you don’t feel comfortable posting here, call me at 925-847-2164 or e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Staying silent only keeps abuse a secret.