By Jackie Burrell
Friday, January 30th, 2009 at 12:08 pm in Parenting Issues.
I donâ€™t know about you, but Iâ€™m having a hard time not being really, really judgmental about the Southern California woman who had eight babies, despite (as we just learned this morning) already having six children at home. When I first heard about the team of something like 45 doctors who were assembled to perform the C-section delivering the seven babies expected, I cringed, thinking about the cost of delivering and then caring for all those preemies. But, I told myself, this happens sometimes with fertility drugs, and thatâ€™s between a woman and her doctor. Still, I wondered why we in the media were glorifying the event.
But as the news has leaked out about the fact that the family filed for bankruptcy last year, Iâ€™m feeling a sense of outrage. As the mother of two lovely young women in their early twenties, Iâ€™m fully aware of the resources it takes to responsibly raise a child. And moneyâ€™s only part of it. The bigger part is the time and attention. Even if youâ€™re in the best parenting team in the world, how can you possibly read a bedtime story to 14 kids every night?
Donâ€™t get me wrong: I think fertility drugs and treatments are a wonderful necessity. Over the years, Iâ€™ve had a number of friends whoâ€™ve struggled with fertility issues and my heart has always ached for them. And the saddest thing, is that they are women who would be wonderful mothers. So to see fertility drugs so abused breaks my heart. This womanâ€™s irresponsible selfishness is not fair either to her kids or to the rest of us who will now end up footing the bill.
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