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OCTUPLET MOM: What Was She Thinking?

By Jackie Burrell
Friday, January 30th, 2009 at 12:08 pm in Parenting Issues.

Octuplets (illustration by Junie Bro-Jorgensen, MCT) A guest post by Times and Tribune features editor Lisa Wrenn:

I don’t know about you, but I’m having a hard time not being really, really judgmental about the Southern California woman who had eight babies, despite (as we just learned this morning) already having six children at home. When I first heard about the team of something like 45 doctors who were assembled to perform the C-section delivering the seven babies expected, I cringed, thinking about the cost of delivering and then caring for all those preemies. But, I told myself, this happens sometimes with fertility drugs, and that’s between a woman and her doctor. Still, I wondered why we in the media were glorifying the event.

But as the news has leaked out about the fact that the family filed for bankruptcy last year, I’m feeling a sense of outrage. As the mother of two lovely young women in their early twenties, I’m fully aware of the resources it takes to responsibly raise a child. And money’s only part of it. The bigger part is the time and attention. Even if you’re in the best parenting team in the world, how can you possibly read a bedtime story to 14 kids every night?

Don’t get me wrong: I think fertility drugs and treatments are a wonderful necessity. Over the years, I’ve had a number of friends who’ve struggled with fertility issues and my heart has always ached for them. And the saddest thing, is that they are women who would be wonderful mothers. So to see fertility drugs so abused breaks my heart. This woman’s irresponsible selfishness is not fair either to her kids or to the rest of us who will now end up footing the bill.

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  1. virginia Says:

    This situation is definitely unique. I hope that the woman’s friends and family will unite and support her in any way they can. These babies, who didn’t ask to be born are now here and they need all the help they can get. It’s easy to judge another, however, unless we are there it’s difficult to know the why of things. I just know that once something has happened such as the birth of these 8 babies, that now we have to put aside opinions and help them however we can.

  2. kirsten Says:

    I realize it’s not the childrens fault, but I agree with the article – there’s no way a single mom with 14 kids under the age of 7 can properly raise those kids and nurture them properly. I also don’t like that this situation automatically assumes that family members and the community need to jump in – this lady didn’t ask for their help before getting into this situation – and as a taxpayer – I don’t want a dime of my money going to someone who is acting that irrationally and irresponsibly – she’s just as bad as those fat cats in the banking industry who abused the generosity of taxpayers with the first stimulus package (but because kids are involved – we’re suppose to be nice about it? I don’t think so. I only have 1 son because that’s all my husband and I could take care of properly w/ out being a burden to others – but I guess being responsible and thinking of how one’s choices impact others is outdated. I’m tired of handing out cash and support to people who abuse the system – and this lady is the queen bee of systemic abuse and narcisism). I think the best thing to do is for that lady to give most, if not all, of the kids up for adoption. There are a ton of families who would love to love (and could appropriately support) these little ones.

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