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Fear Factor: Parenting Edition

By Jackie Burrell
Wednesday, September 29th, 2010 at 3:42 pm in Parenting Issues.

Bullies (Illustration by Gaylen Floy/MCT) That book I told you about on Monday is one compelling read. “The Paranoid Parents Guide” takes parents’ most overwhelming fears and busts the myths.  So that overwhelming fear we all have about stranger danger? Here’s the reality check, says author Christie Barnes:

“Since we can’t control random crimes, we grossly overinflate their danger… Only .004 percent of kidnappings are perpetrated by a stranger. Abuse is most often committed by family members, ‘friends’ and acquaintances.”

So that should make you feel better about strangers … now about those people you know… yikes.

“We teach our children fear of every stranger,” Barnes points out,  “but strangers are the ones who usually help if our children get lost – and they do get lost, a lot. More than 2,000 children get lost in this country every day, on average. They wander off at the beach, in the store and at the playground, or they miss the school bus.” And who finds them and brings them back? Yep, kindly people you don’t know. Strangers.

So, she says, teach your kids all the safety awareness things that are so important – don’t get in other people’s cars without your permission, for example, and the difference between good touch and bad touch – but make sure they apply them to all people and all situations. More tomorrow…

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