You’ve probably heard the tragic story that happened last week involving the Hayward High School students. We’re keeping an ear out for updates, but I received a press release that was e-mailed to me by relatives of the twins. We’re not releasing any names at this point because of the nature of the case.
Here’s the family statement, which they want to be shared:
We understand that the media’s role is to provide the public with pertinent information. However, our family has felt that the media, in paying attention to a number of uncertain and very sensitive details pertaining to the passing of our son, have produced sensationalized news articles at the expense of our privacy and well being. This focus on the tragic and fatal details, we feel, does little to help our family and community heal and, instead, fetishizes this event.
Certainly, we understand that people are very concerned for the well being of our local community. As such, we ask that, if the media is going to dedicate resources to covering this tragic event, that they note the tremendous amount of support our family and our sons have received from the vital community institutions, such as our church’s parish and our sons’ schools. For example, the youth in the PUENTE program at Hayward High School produced an impressive shrine, complete with artwork and poetry, dedicated to the memory of our deceased son. Our church provided our community with a space to grieve our collective loss. These are important events and actions that demonstrate the well standing of our sons in the broader community, as well as our community’s tremendous capacity to heal and recover.
We welcome the media to echo our gratitude to those individuals, families and community organizations that have expressed their condolences and lent their moral support to our family in this moment of crisis. We feel that this is an opportunity for all of us to learn from this tragedy, and that the strengthening of community ties, as demonstrated by the outpouring of community support, provides us all with great hope for the future of our entire community.
Thank you for your time and attention.