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Help for a Gold Star wife

By Lisa Vorderbrueggen
Saturday, October 23rd, 2010 at 4:27 pm in veterans.

Jessica and Sean on their wedding day, 2005

Jessica and Sean on their wedding day, 2005

Let’s take a much deserved break from politics.

I have posted below a flyer for an Oct. 30 pancake breakfast fundraiser in Pittsburg to benefit a special young woman, Gold Star wife Jessica Langevin, whose husband, Sean, was killed in 2007 while serving in the Army in Afghanistan.

Click here to read my colleague Rick Radin’s story about why people are raising money for Jessica right now. The link also includes information about an account set up to accept donations.

In the interests of full disclosure, I confess utter and total bias. I call Jessica my “bonus” daughter. It’s a little complicated (blended families usually are) but Jessica is the step-sister of my three step-children, and my husband, Joe, and I, love her as though she were our own. (All total, between his, mine and our exes, Joe & I have claims of one variety or another on seven wonderful children and seven beautiful grandchildren.)

It has been a rough three years for Jessica. She was 7 months pregnant when Sean was killed. But she has been working hard. She used Sean’s death benefit money and bought a new house in Pittsburg where she began setting up an in-home daycare center. She wanted a job that would allow her to stay at home with their little girl, Zoe, and build a new life for them both.

The back yard was nothing but a dirt hillside and to obtain a childcare license, she needed a safe and secure place for the kids to play. She hired a contractor, who took her money and didn’t finish the job. The hill kept slumping and sliding.

I mentioned Jessica’ predicament to Spike Schau, the California State Coordinator of the Warriors’ Watch Riders, a motorcycle group that escorts fallen soldiers. Spike had helped escort Sean to his resting place in Queen of Heaven cemetery in Pleasant Hill. I met Spike again, while working as a reporter, a few times at veterans events.

I can’t say exactly what triggered my call to Spike, although Jessica believes it was God answering her prayers. But I’m glad I did. It was as though I had unleashed a tornado. Spike took a hold of Jessica’s dilemma and tapped into the vast and often unheralded support system for our military families. He called it a team effort and he is right.  Rick’s story details the names and details of just some of the wonderful people who have volunteered their time, money and skills just in the past week.

Sean’s death was and remains a source of terrible loss and sadness for Jessica, a void that those of us who love her cannot fill. But watching the community sweep this young woman into their arms and give her the help and support she needs sure goes a long way.

So, come on over to the pancake breakfast in Pittsburg on Saturday. It will fill your stomach and your heart. And if you are anything like me, you’ll shed a few tears, too.

UPDATE: Spike says what the project needs most is a donation of 38 cubic yards of concrete or the money to help pay for it. So, eat pancakes!

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  • http://www.warriorswatch.org Spike

    And a Team it is, My friend Ed has taken the Construction side of it with MaMa J and made Tremendous
    Advancement.BSM & ECCMF are doing a fundraiser,and at least 5 more team are involved from checking her VA entitlements to Childcare needs.Thanks to Al,Paul,Josie,Nancy,Patty,Phil,Ed,Bryan,Newell and many others who are making a differance as well.

  • Lisa Vorderbrueggen

    Spike: I’m counting on you to keep a complete list of everybody!

  • http://stupidlysimpleseo.info Chris

    right on.

  • John W

    Just in case anybody missed it by not reading the linked Rick Radin piece(like I almost did), they are also taking cash donations at the Martinez Wells Fargo branch mentioned at the end of his story.

  • http://www.shupes.net John Shupe

    Who can say no to some yummy pancakes! Exspecially for a good cause!

  • Bob P

    Without exception, Spike has done and exceptional job of coordinating the efforts of everyone. To all the contractors that stepped up, Bravo Zulu. Without you, this would have never been possible. To all the other contributor to this project, you can be rest assured that your time and money is well spent. But, we MUST either get the funds or a contribution for the concrete AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. You will never find a more JUST cause. Think about it for a minute. What if this happened to YOU?

  • SSG Baydo

    Jenn and I will do ANYTHING to help her out! Unfortunately, we can’t make it to California to help out directly, but we will do what we can from Fort Hood. Please pass on to Jessica and Zoe that both of them and Sean are in our hearts and prayers daily…

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    Without exception, Spike has done and exceptional job of coordinating the efforts of everyone.